Tuesday, November 22, 2011

Tznius is for men too

With the recent tragedies that have befallen Klal Yisrael, people look to improve and be mechazek in their Shmiras hamitzvos and many other areas that could use some improvment. One issue which is a constant struggle and always brought up is Tznius. In the recent issue of the FJJ  many letters addressed this issue as a response to the tragedies that have befallen. One writer wrote that  tznius while usualy spoken about to women, it applies to men just as well.
 " Tragedies have been affecting our community, as well as other frum communities throughout the world. Is it possible that these are warnings from Hashem to improve our “dress code”, among other aveiros? I hardly notice tznius, it’s not something I pay attention to. But a recent quick shopping stop at a Marine Park grocery store was like a kick in the gut. I understand better what those speeches are about when I saw how the young women and the men dress! Knees a-plenty, skirts as tight as leotards, black fingernails, body contours for all to see, and the hair – fuggedaboutit! Men in pants so tight you could see their contours too, and hair slicked back with gel - Elvis style. Almost as bad was the conversation – loud, uncouth, Disrespectful. I left that store with a feeling that something is very wrong in our community. May Hashem console all those who have suffered tragedy. But we, as neighbors and friends, how many tears have we shed  along with the families? The blow is a collective one and there is a message here for all of us, you and me together. Are you the mother or grandmother of a teenaged son or daughter? Let’s protect ourselves against future tragedy, R”L. Let’s try to better ourselves in the zechus of these korbanos. Tznius is an obvious way to start."

A good point  ,the question is what is considered standard. Ask one of the Taliban women in yerushalayim they will say if your face is not covered your not tzniusdik. Each one looks down at someone who dresses less then their own standard. What it really comes down to is halacha guidelines which have many diffrent interpretations.

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