Friday, August 29, 2014

MOOD - the response to the scare tactics and dire statistics about the shidduch crisis

There are dire statistics when it comes to the shidduch crisis- recently there was an article claiming that 85% of girls over age of 25 will not get married. Other stats saying 10% of girls will never marry. They paint a very bleak picture for singles in shidduchim along with their parents who have it hard enough, these stats only make it worse.

 Enter MOOD, Mothers Of Older Daughters not a solution to the shidduch crisis but a movement to be constructive and positive while waiting for a shidduch. One can lose hope reading all the articles every week about the shidduch crisis, its very depressing and causes panic and fear. Its counter productive since it makes girls even more desperate. Every mother has to believe that her daughter will i'yh get married. It can be depressing to be in the MOOD why not break the MOOD and do constructive things
that will help girls with shidduchim. Setting up shidduch meetings in your neighborhood is a positive that can bring results. Groups of women coming together and brainstorming can help make shidduchim and give chizuk to others that are in the MOOD. For more info and to set up shidduch groups in your neighborhood, email: shidduchMOOD@aol.com
 source: Yated Neeman

17 comments:

  1. So why is there a "freeze' period in Lakewood? Every single rav of any persuation for 2 thousand years were unanimously opposed to any and all unnecessary delays in the shidduch process. From whom did Lakewood get the heter for a freeze?

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  2. You're right. Help the girls with shidduchim by not following the bandwagon of forcing them to only look for kollel boys, which most don't wany anyway. Counseling and brainstorming is useless, until you change the system entirely.

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    1. The kollel system is not the cause of the shidduch crisis, if there is one.

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    2. If there is one? Please tell us you're joking.

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    3. Tzadok Katz a seasoned shadchan wrote numerous articles debunking the Shidduch crisis

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  3. "They asked Rav Shach."
    Why would they even ask, and please provide evidence that he approved. No hearsay, no askan, no middleman , please.

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  4. Don't know Mr. Katz, seasoned or not, nor on which continent he lives, and don't buy his debunking.. Go speak to thousands of singles who are real, live, and need shidduchim.There's a crisis or aren't you interested?

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  5. Anonymous 2:20
    For some reason, you want to bury this urgent issue. You and Tzadok Katz are the only 2 people who feel this way. Obviously, you have NO idea what's going on.

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  6. Many shadchanim agree to rabbi katz.and slowly the marketing strategy is changing. The recent article was a verly large knife in the heart of all parents

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  7. The freezer is definently a cause for the crisis. I recently was discussing it with a older person . And he was tracking the crisis . His finding were that its a bout 20 to 25 years old . Which does coinncide with the freezer

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    1. The freezer is for 3 months that's not enough to call it a cause of the crisis. The crisis is due to secular culture that seeped in to our society. Lots of girls that are crying about the shidduch crisis have gone out with over 20 boys. Is there no one good enough for them? they reject boys for the silliest reasons.

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  8. to 10:11,
    Even if it's for one hour, it's wrong. Not saying that alone causes the crisis, but the idea that shidduch prospecting should be put on hold for whatever reason ( there are exceptions & a freeze isn't one of them) , was always and forever frowned upon by all rabbonim and ehrlich lay people as long as I and everybody else can remember.

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  9. Yeshivishe mags and articles are for some reason convoluting and twisting statistics around to show that there's no shidduch crisis and are in gross denial. They're out of touch. Everybody knows at least 1-3 young singles, be it in extended family or friends or acquaintances. Shadchonim whom I know personally have unfortunately validated the crisis, I know of at least 5 singles myself. "Don't confuse us with the facts" isn't going to cut it anymore.

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  10. "-slowly the marketing strategy is changing--"
    If you need a marketing strategy, you flat out admitted there's a crisis. Nobody in my family or neighborhood ever needed a marketing strategy going back at least 100 generations till now. How about you?

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    1. Mr rechnitz article is pure marketining. Let me explain. He took. A schoold alumni list from a school which has the highest number of unmarried girls and portrayed it as 'a' school I'm america? That is called false marketing trying to scare the hell out of everyone and than he will be the messiah and save al the girls. Him and obama should team up

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